5 Do’s and Don’ts of a Sensual Massage
If you’re looking to explore your sex life, using an erotic massage as foreplay is a great way to drive your senses crazy. Performed a Sensual, erotic massage is an art and is not be taken lightly. You probably think you’re an expert already because you’ve massaged your partner’s shoulders a couple of times whilst watching Netflix, but giving a sensual massage is far more intricate. But if you’re up for the challenge, here’s a few do’s and don’t’s to help you along the way.
1. Don’t go mad with massage oil
Passionately ripping off the bottle cap and pouring the contents onto someone always looks super sexy in the movies, but it feels horrible in real life! Cold oil on warm skin is not a good combo, so make sure to follow the instructions on the bottle and warm the oil before use. Instead of recklessly squirting it onto your partners back like body paint, drizzle a few drops at a time and use the palms of your hands to gently rub it into their skin. Much sexier, trust me.
2. Do take it slow
Slow and steady wins the race- that’s your mantra when it comes to performing a sensual massage. This style of massage is not meant to be rushed- I mean come on, the clue is in the name. Start by using light, gentle strokes and really get your partner in the mood. Once they are totally at ease, pick up the pace a little and use deeper, firmer techniques. By this point, they’ll be putty in your hands.
3. Don’t tire yourself out
Whilst your partner can lie back and relax, you’re the one putting in the hard work, so it’s important not to tire yourself out right away. The best way to do this is by avoiding using your thumbs right from the get go, as it’ll tire your hands out. Stick to long, sensual strokes using your fingers and palms, and only incorporate the thumbs when you want to notch up the pleasure. Alternatively, trying switching up your technique throughout. Use the gentle strokes for most of the massage and only incorporate the thumbs in short bursts.
4. Do massage on the floor
I think for most people, using a bed as a make shift massage table is the ‘go to’. However, if you want to avoid hurting your back, we would recommend shifting your session the floor. Although soft and comfortable, beds are uneven, meaning your partner’s body will be twisted rather than straight. This is going to make it seriously awkward for you to hit every spot, and your partner will find the whole experience more painful than pleasurable!
5. Don’t sit in silence
This style of massage is of course designed to be sensual, but it isn’t designed to be silent. Any good therapist will ask their client for feedback during the session in order to gain positive reinforcement for certain techniques. If this is your first time performing a sensual massage, asking your partner what they like and don’t like is crucial if you want to continuously improve the experience. As the masseuse, the chances are you’ll pick up on all of the ‘ahh’s’ and the ‘ouch’s’, so you won’t have too much trouble sussing out the yes’s and the no’s. But don’t be a mute, ask questions!
DIY massaging is all about trial and error, so don’t worry if it doesn’t exactly go to plan first time around. But if you’re serious about mastering the art of fbsm, make sure to take note of the do’s and don’ts!